If you have recently split up with or divorced from your partner, it can be difficult to know where to begin.
No one expects you to be at your best all of the time, and you may find that you feel undervalued, or forget that you’re doing a great job. Changes in your life can be very stressful and it’s easy to underestimate the burden of day-to-day responsibilities.
Everyone worries from time to time, but problems and challenges can sometimes feel overwhelming.
If you’re unsure if what you’re feeling is depression/post-natal depression, anxiety or perhaps something else, it’s worth speaking to your GP, midwife, health visitor or one of the organisations listed below. Asking for help takes courage. It’s important to remember that you’re not alone, and that taking steps to look after yourself will pay dividends.
0300 123 3393
Information, advice and support on all aspects of mental health including postnatal depression, common signs, self-help tips, treatment and support.
Provides information on what depression is, its causes, how to spot the signs, where to get help, and treatment.
116 123 (Freephone number)
Provides confidential emotional support for those experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including suicidal feelings. The helpline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and you can also contact them by email (email@example.com) or letter. In some areas, face-to-face appointments are available.
0300 304 7000
Runs a national helpline offering emotional support and information to anyone affected by mental illness. Open 6pm to 11pm every day of the year. Support is also available via email and online forums.
Hopeline UK provides non-judgmental support and advice for children and people under the age of 35 who are experiencing thoughts of suicide.
Separating from a partner is a huge life change, particularly when you have children. The following organisations and resources offer practical and emotional support for you and your family. There are also details of organisations offering mediation services, which may help you to communicate with your child’s other parent and reach agreements about difficult issues.
National Family Mediation
0300 4000 636
A local network of not-for-profit family mediation services which offers a practical approach to resolving disputes between separated or separating couples. Mediation can help individuals reach joint decisions on issues associated with separation such as children, finance or property.
Money Advice Service
0800 138 7777
Impartial information to help parents going through divorce or separation deal with finances. Information includes splitting finances and possessions, dealing with the family home and tips for managing money.
Sharing parenting responsibilities with your child’s other parent can be difficult. You may each have a different style of parenting or different ideas about where your child should spend their time. The organisations below support parents who live apart and aim to help you to reach agreements about the arrangements for your child.
Provides lots of information on your rights and the law. They have a number of information guides and support on child arrangements such as a survival guide to sorting out arrangements for your children.
Separated parents’ information programme
A national course offered to parents who are going through the courts to decide arrangements for their children. A handbook to accompany the course is available on the Cafcass website and gives useful information, even if you’re not attending a course. The handbook covers the court process, how it can affect you and your children, your emotions and ways to improve communication with your child’s other parent to help your future parenting.